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Tuesday, February 24, 2009

What to do When You Suspect a Cheating Spouse

By Fositi Dassill

The one thing you can count on when this occurs to you (that your spouse may be having an affair) is they will never admit it to you. Often they will try to explain away everything and say you are overreacting. If you suspect something is going on, chances are good something is, although of course it is not always true.

You need to be prepared for what you are going to find out and how you as a person are going to deal with it. If you have your entire life wrapped up in your partner, what is going to happen to you? Most people can sense some kind of distance when this happens. If your partner is coming home late, gets unexpected text messages or calls on their phone, you have reason to be alarmed. Do they sleep with their phone and dare you to answer it or look at it? This is a tall tale sign that something is wrong, be prepared to find out the worst and be able to deal with it.

If and when you have proof that your partner is having an affair it is up to you to decide if you want to confront that person. When and if you do, do not become accusatory or throw accusations out, in other words do not be in an angry mode or hostile towards the person, it can only make things much worse for you in the end. It is much better to come from an open place and tell your partner you are suspecting these things and you want to know if they want to fix it or not. If you sense some distance, ask them what is gong on. It is your life with this partner that is at risk, ask questions but do not be hostile towards the other person, it makes matters much worse.

Hostility always leads to trouble and it is not a good way to let your partner know what is going on. Knowledge is power and it is up to you to decide what you want to do with it. Do you want to end the relationship because of what has happened or do you really love the person and it is something that is forgivable. It may depend if there was physcial contact or if it was restricted to cyberland only.

It will always be true, the person you are blaming for cheating will try to turn the tables on you and blame you. Do not be disappointed if this happens, noone wants to get caught, including your cheating spouse. They need to own up to what they are doing and tell you about it. The best thing is for you to keep your cool.

If you want closure and want to finally see what your spouse is up to, whether they are cheating or not, then you need to get to the bottom of what is going on. A paid reverse phone number search will do the trick. There are countless ones on the internet, do a search on your favorite search engine to find the best options.

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